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30 Days to Getting Over the Dork You Used to Call Your Boyfriend by Clea Hantman

January 17th, 2008 (05:48 am)
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Current Mood: awake
Current Song: Last Goodbye by Jeff Buckley

I recently received a parcel containing four new titles. Somehow, a non-fiction book had snuck in alongside three fictional friends. I love a lot of atypical non-fiction sections (send me to Ancient Egypt, talk about chaos theory, or define words and I'm happy) but rarely if ever read self-help books. I read this sneaky little book to see if it was worth passing it along to my teen customers - and it is.

30 Days to Getting Over the Dork You Used to Call Your Boyfriend by Clea Hantman was surprisingly cute, clean, and uplifting. The book is split up into five sections, one for each stage of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance), with specific activities and reading for each day.

It's easy to say, "Stop moping and move on," but harder to do. Throughout the book, readers are encouraged to get up off of the couch and dance, to reconnect with friends and with themselves. They are never told to be vengeful or rude. It's less about the ex and more about you. It does not inspire selfishness nor grudges, but rather, self-confidence and optimism.

My favorite section is Day Seventeen: Give a Little Bit, which begins on page 85. This chapter is all about giving back. "There are a zillion ways for you to volunteer. The trick is finding one that's right for you." "For example, you may not teach children how to read, but you can help those children." If you want to donate your time to a worthy organization or cause but don't know where to start, this chapter provides some great ideas, such as hosting or participating in walk-a-thon, volunteering, and donating your old clothes.

30 Days is rife with cool pick-me-up ideas, activities, and surveys.1 The book even closes with lists of celebrities who have been dumped or have dumped others. The point is this happens to everyone, and you'll be okay. With quirky writing, personal anecdotes from the author, and a song at the end of every chapter,2 this book is sure to make teens laugh out loud. Laughter is the best medicine, after all, and what a great way to start healing.

1. Check out pages 58, 79, and 134.

2. The song recommendations include some that I personally love, such as The Middle by Jimmy Eat World and Last Goodbye by Jeff Buckley.

The author has a corresponding blog - www.GettingOverTheDork.com - and nearly every blog entry offers a song. I am now listening to Careless Whisper.


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Posted by: Little Willow (slayground)
Posted at: January 17th, 2008 05:55 pm (UTC)

It's fun. :)

Is the guide up? Let me know!

Posted by: ((Anonymous))
Posted at: January 18th, 2008 12:10 pm (UTC)

hi there my name is tiffany do you know a boys to going out with

Posted by: Little Willow (slayground)
Posted at: January 18th, 2008 01:40 pm (UTC)

Hi there, Tiffany! I'm not sure that I understand your comment.

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